If you are new dad or soon to be dad, you hear a lot about the challenges that come with fatherhood:
“Oh man you are never going to get any sleep”
or how about this one: “forget about going out with your friends anymore.”
and the ever so positive…..“whoa kids are so expensive. You just wait.”
Well I’m here to tell you that being a dad is incredible. There are many reasons why the journey is awesome, but I have narrowed it down to my 6 favorites things about being a dad.
There is enough negativity going on in this world, let’s focus on some good stuff. Like fatherhood. There just is nothing else like it. I wanted to share with you 6 of the best things about being a dad.
#1 – Your child thinks you’re superhero – well maybe not literally but pretty darn close. The way they look up to you, it’s an incredible feeling to have someone think you are that great. It’s a little bit of pressure sometimes but an amazing nonetheless.
#2 – Their hugs and kisses – When you come home from work and they run to see you and give you a big hug…there isn’t much that can top that. Parents are typically initiating affection more often than the child, but when they do, it is really pure.
#3 – The feeling you get when something you have been trying to teach them finally clicks – This can be from teaching them good manners and they actually say please and thank you on their own to them learning how to ride a bike and you letting go for the first time. These kind of moments are special and give you that warm and fuzzy feeling.
#4 – It teaches you to focus on what really is important – Sure my sports car and business were really important when my first child was born but you begin to realize that nobody on their death bed ever says “I should have spent more time at the office”.
Learning to have multiple facets of your life in harmony became the goal for me. Things didn’t necessarily get eliminated, it’s just my priorities begin to shift when I became a dad. That’s the choice I want to make.
#5 – It teaches you to slow down. No matter how fast you want to go, when you are dealing with a baby or toddler, it is at their pace. You can’t hurry the process. Just the other day, I saw a toddler outside the gym. He was maybe the age where he had only been walking for a short bit. There were flowers out front and he stopped to smell the flowers. His mom, who obviously had to get to a class, was in a hurry but saw he was really enjoying the flowers. She let him smell them for for a bit and then grabbed his hand to go in. But I will say she let him stand there a lot longer than I would have thought.
#6 – It makes you want to be a better man – when you start realizing that another human really depends on you, you want to step up your game. You start thinking about things like your legacy and how you can positively impact those around you.
As I said in the beginning, being a dad is incredible. It’s also what you make of it. Be sure to enjoy the journey and know that your role as a father is so important. We are very grateful that you are part of Dad University.