When you are a dad to be everyone tells you that you will never get sleep again, you won’t have a social life, and you better make some more money because kids are expensive.
Well, those are all true. But what about the secret dad to be advice? The tips and tricks that only experienced fathers know. It’s the stuff that has never been revealed…at least I couldn’t find it on the internet when I looked.
We are pulling back the curtain and giving you dad to be tips that nobody tells you
If you are a dad to be, you are probably worried about how to change a diaper or how to hold the baby. Trust me on this, you only need to do those things a few times and you too can consider yourself an expert.
I’m more concerned about your well being so these will absolutely help you on your fathering journey:
#1 – Learn empathy – If you aren’t familiar with empathy, start now. It is the single most important thing in parenting.
Empathy is putting yourself in someone else’s place and seeing things from their perspective. Being empathetic towards your baby will keep you calmer and make you a better parent.
You will better understand why they are upset and relate to them better. It will help you get along better with the baby’s mother as well. Learn to be empathetic.
#2 – Emotions are OK – Nobody tells you that you will probably get really emotional. You are going to discover emotions you didn’t know you had.
You will cry because you are so happy. You will be sad because of something that has nothing to do with you. I don’t know the exact science behind it, but our hormones are definitely effected by the process of becoming a father.
#3 – Stop Complaining – Complaining Doesn’t work – I’m not sure who you are complaining to but nobody wants to hear it and it’s not an effective strategy. Also, she has it much harder than you do.
Instead of complaining, find a solution. Figure out what the problem is and do something about it. Take action.
#4: You Don’t Have to Know Everything – sure we created Dad University to help you along your fatherhood journey with as many topics as possible, but we all fail…a lot.
You are not going to know how to handle a situation, or know exactly what your baby needs. The important thing is to learn what works for you and your child. You will be ok.
#5: Enjoy the Present – you may find yourself saying “I can’t wait until he can talk, or it is going to be amazing when she walks”.
Enjoy the present moment and stop worrying about what they are going to do. If you do, you are going to miss it. The time goes by really fast.
#6: Your Involvement is Critical – This is a 50/50 deal. You spending one on one time with your baby is so important for them (and you).
Don’t leave taking care of the child up to mom. It doesn’t matter if you work full time or aren’t in a relationship with the mom. Your involvement with the baby is crucial and you are 50% parent to that child.
Being a dad has so many facets to it. You are going to feel high and lows. You are going to try things and fail. But just know that you can do this and you are going to be awesome.
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