“All negative emotions, especially anger, depend on your ability to blame someone or something else for something in your life you are unhappy about”
– Brian Tracy (famous motivational speaker)
We allow others to effect our emotions. Think of some of the phrases we have heard since we were little and we still pass along to our own kids:
– Don’t say that. It hurts his feelings
– The way you are acting is making me really upset.
– That hurt my feelings
– I can’t believe what she just did. That makes me mad
Of course we mean well when we are trying to teach our kids sensitivity for others. But could we be more impactful from teaching them resiliency?
These are all indicating that the actions of someone else dictated how another person felt. The reality is that we are responsible for our own feelings and how we perceive things. We have the decision to determine if something is bad, good, negatively effects us or makes us happy. We also can make the decision that it doesn’t really effect us at all.
What if we were able to teach our children that despite what others say or do, it doesn’t really effect them. I heard a saying, “I will not have anything break my serenity”. Or for example the saying:
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”
If they were able to truly stick to who they are. They could be happy regardless of what someone says. They would feel great despite the way someone may act towards them.
This is really powerful stuff that effects our children every day. Think about bullying, acceptance among peers, or even causes of suicide. People are so greatly effected by what others say and do. …