Manners are not something you are born with, they must be taught. The reality is that many people really don’t have good manners. In Episode 48, Jason’s 7 year old son Kasen joins in the discussion. We do know it’s important to start early. Studies show that we can start teaching children manners at about 18 months as they begin to be aware that other people have feelings. The article we discuss in the podcast is from Parents.com.
Not being taught manners can be problematic as they go off to school and begin to deal with other people. We do know that it doesn’t happen overnight. Manner smust be taught over and over. Also, monkey see, monkey do. If you want your kids to have manners, you must display them first. Like many other parenting aspects, consistency is the key.
There are 4 Basic areas of Manners
Basic Table Manners
- What to expect: By age 3, your child should be able to eat with a spoon and fork, stay seated at the table for 15 to 20 minutes, and wipe his mouth with a napkin.
- What to do: During toddlerhood, use a no-break plate; encourage him to use his utensils; discourage him from throwing food by telling him, “We don’t throw food on the floor. If you don’t want any more, please say ‘no thank you.’”
Please and Thank You
- What to expect: An 18-month-old may be able to say the words but not necessarily grasp their true meaning. By 2 1/2, kids can link the word to the concept.
- What to do: If your child hasn’t gotten into the habit, gently prompt him by saying, “What do we say after we get a gift?” or “What do we say when someone gives us a treat?”
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