Being a dad is one of the most difficult things a man can do. If you’re like most fathers, you feel pressure to provide for your family, pressure from the outside world to be involved in your child’s life, pressure from your partner to be their support system, and you feel the weight of responsibility to raise a productive member of society. A lot of times, it feels like the difficulties of being a dad are too much.
I get it. I’ve been there. And millions of other dads feel the same pressure and weight of fatherhood as you.
I want you to hear, as you are dealing with the difficulties of fatherhood… well… I want you to hear that dads are better than moms!
Let me say, before I get started, that you’re getting ready to read a sexist, offensive, irrevocably true rant about how incredibly awesome dads are. Don’t get me wrong. Moms are cool. There’s no way on earth that I would have the pain-tolerance and patience to carry a child for nine months and then push it out of my body. Moms get 1 point for having babies, but that’s it.
Here are the reasons why you, and the rest the dads in the world, are better than moms.
Dads are just way better
It’s a fact. Dads are just way better. The earth is round and revolves around the sun, we need oxygen to live, plants grow when they receive water and sunshine, Michael Jordan is better than Lebron, and dads are better than moms.
Why are dads better than moms?
- Dads are better at playing.
- Dads are funnier.
- Dads get the kids to listen more.
- Dads are better at winning stuff.
- Dads are better at sounds effects.
- Dads are better at ignoring screaming children.
- Dads are better at letting kids push boundaries.
- Dads fix stuff better.
If you’re still not convinced, let’s look at the data. In a 2015 Pew study (https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/12/fathers-day-facts/), researchers discovered that the number of stay-at-home dads in America rose by 10% from the previous decade. 57% of all dads said that fatherhood was central to their identity as a man. Interestingly, 54% of dads said that parenting was rewarding “most of the time” while only 52% of moms had a similar response. 46% of dads said parenting was enjoyable most of the time compared to only 42% of their female counterparts. In other words, American dads enjoy their roles, are increasingly comfortable at home with their kids, and are just as fulfilled as moms claim to be.
My expert, scientific conclusion, based on this data, is that dads are better than moms!
Dads are really important
On a serious note, dads like you are vital to the long-term health of the world in which we live. That may sound extreme, but I can assure that it’s not. Children who grow up in a home where the dad played an active role in their early development are smarter, do better in verbal and math tests, are more confident and happier, more compassionate and generous, and gain more problem-solving skills than kids who grow up without a father.
It’s incredible how much a dad like you sets up a child for success later in life. The reality is that 90% of runaway children and 85% of youth in prison come from a household without a dad. When a child grows up in a family without a dad, he or she is more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol into and throughout adulthood. And, shockingly, children who grow up without a dad make less money, get divorced more frequently, and suffer more often from anxiety and depression.
In other words, when dads make an effort to be a part of their children’s lives, they are making a deep and long-term impact, one with ripple effects that spread farther than anyone can imagine.
Keep it Up!
If you’re a dad, and you woke up this morning wondering if you’re doing the right thing, if you’re doing enough, or if you really can handle the difficulties of fatherhood, just know that, above anything, you are WAY better than any mom on the planet!
Podcast Ep. 68 Why Dads Are Better Than Moms
If you’re a dad, and you’ve decided that you want to be a good one, thank you. Thank you for striving to leave a legacy that can be seen in the lives of your grandkids, great-grandkids, and more future generations.
I’m just a dude who wants to encourage you today to keep it up. Being a dad is hard, but it’s worth it. We’re all on this journey together to make sure our kids leave the house with pants on and become the best version of themselves they can be.