How Not To Get Annoyed By Your Child

parenting Aug 15, 2021
How Not To Get Annoyed By Your Child

Do your little ones get a tad bit too annoying for your liking sometimes? Well, you’re not alone there. Every father — yes, even the superhero ones — have their fair share of exasperation at their kids.

Because let’s face it, children can be annoying. We love them, but they can be as confusing as an IKEA manual and as irritating as super slow internet.

Between the loud crying of babies, the whining of toddlers, or the sheer stubbornness of your teen, it would be a miracle if you’ve never gotten annoyed at them. It’s natural, it’s human, and it all comes with the territory of being a father.

At the same time, just because it’s natural doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do something about it. How you react to getting annoyed can affect both your relationship with your child (and the people around you) and their personality or mental health.

It’s essential to manage feelings of annoyance or irritation in a healthy way to maintain a positive relationship with your child. Below are some techniques and tips to help you reduce your irritation or even prevent getting annoyed by your child.

Be Responsible for Your Own Feelings

It’s easy to blame others for how we feel, but the truth is that our emotions are our own responsibility. We cannot control others’ actions, but we have complete control over how we react.

Moreover, while we may not be able to fully control our emotions, we can manage and control annoyance or anger to a certain extent.

When your child’s constant nagging or tantrums start to wear you down and trigger feelings of anger or frustration, remind yourself that it’s not their fault you feel this way.

Statements like “You are making me mad,” or “It’s irritating me when you don’t listen,” are all examples of you placing the responsibility of your feelings and emotional responses onto your child. Regardless of what they may have done wrong, your response — in this case, to get mad or annoyed — is still your own decision. You can also choose differently and be the bigger person, acting more understanding and kind.

Acknowledging and knowing that your feelings are your own choice tends to make people pause, tone down their annoyance, or respond in a more positive, healthier way.

Practice Self-Care

We have to take care of ourselves first before taking care of others, including our children. If we are not at our best physically and mentally, it’s harder for us to be patient and understanding fathers.

Think about how easy it is for you to get annoyed or frustrated when you’re feeling tired, hungry, sleep-deprived, or stressed.

Remember your days in college or at work, when you’re swamped with a lot of things to do and not a lot of time to do it? You may have sacrificed sleep, food, or both — and ended up snapping at anyone that might approach you.

It’s the same with being a father and raising a child. If you’re not taking care of yourself and prioritizing your own well-being, then it’s easy to get annoyed by even the smallest things that your child does.

So make sure to practice self-care, starting with the following:

  • Get enough sleep: Aim for at least seven hours of sleep at night. It’s a good idea to occasionally join your kid for naptime, too.
  • Eat a balanced diet: Make sure you’re getting enough nutrients to fuel your body and mind. Watch your sugar, caffeine, and alcohol intake, since these can greatly affect your mood.
  • Stay hydrated: Be sure to drink plenty of water throughout the day. Not getting enough water can make you more irritable, bring down your mood, and deplete your energy.
  • Exercise regularly: Getting some physical activity in your day can do wonders for your body as well as your mental and emotional well-being. Taking walks is a good way to start!
  • Practice mindfulness: Take time each day to meditate, do yoga, or simply sit and focus on your breathing. Mental health is just as important as your physical health.

See Things From a Different Perspective

Are you familiar with illusion or ambiguous images? These show you two different things depending on how you look at it or what you choose to focus on. You can apply the same idea to help you not get annoyed by kids. Take a step back and try to see the annoying things they do from a different perspective.

Basically, you reframe the situation and try to understand why your child may be acting a certain way. Are they singing loudly? They’re not purposefully annoying you; they’re just happy. Is your kid asking too many questions? They’re simply curious and see you as an awesome, all-knowing adult.

By changing our perspective, we can often find more patience and understanding for our children’s behavior. It can also help us appreciate the small moments and joys of fatherhood, even amidst all the annoyance and chaos.

Take Your Well-Deserved Breaks

It’s no secret that being a parent can get very exhausting and overwhelming. With all the responsibilities you juggle, it’s easy to get so caught up in caring for your kid that you forget to take a break and take care of yourself.

Don’t forget that you deserve breaks too! Taking a break doesn’t have to be something big or grand. A break can be as simple as finding a couple of hours to see a movie, play a PC game, watch a football match or show, or read a book.

It can also be just getting out of the house and treating yourself to a burger and a beer — or even better, going on a date night with your partner.

The important thing is to do something for a change of pace, something to help you recharge and come back to your duties as a father with renewed energy.

Wrapping Up: Keep Calm, Dads!

It takes effort to not get annoyed by kids, but by making sure we’re at our best, changing our perspective, and understanding their behavior, we can find more patience to deal with minor (and even major) annoyances.

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